How to Overcome Negative Emotions for Positive Results

On the Meyers-Briggs index, I am an INTP. I am a solid thinker. Until a few years ago, I had no need for feelings. They were a nuisance! When I stopped eating compulsively, they started oozing out of everywhere. I was a walking ball of emotions. I had no idea what to do with them because I stuffed them for so long.

Enter the Abraham Hicks teachings. One of the most useful things I got from Abe was the Emotional Guidance Scale (EGS). The EGS is a list of positive and negative emotions.

  1. Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. Overwhelment
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

–From the book “Ask and It is Given”, pg. 114

Emotions between fear and pessimism are negative emotions; between joy and contentment, positive emotions; and boredom is neutral. The EGS is very finely tuned. You don’t need to find exactly where you are for it to be useful. It’s enough to know when you feel good and when you feel bad. The granularity comes in handy because you can make a slight tweak and feel slightly better. You don’t have to zoom from fear to joy in an instant, or even in a year.

It also helps to soften your language around good and bad, negative and positive. Basically, when you feel good your beliefs are in alignment with who you really are at your core. When you feel bad, your beliefs are out of alignment with who you really are.

How does this all work? Let’s say that you want to experience more freedom. You have a cadre of beliefs that support and contradict that desire.

  • Freedom means time
  • I don’t have enough time
  • More time takes more money
  • Desiring more money makes me greedy
  • Being greedy is bad

You’re met with a barrage of feelings. While the desire for more freedom feels good. The belief that being greedy is bad leaves you feeling guilty. You might have some anger, resentment, even revenge (rebellion) mixed in. Your desire is laced with all this ickiness.

Instead of getting swept up in the guilt, anger, and resentment, you can use your feelings to tell you that you are out of alignment. Once you know that you are out of alignment, you can begin to change the belief.

Let’s take being greedy is bad. By extension, the chick with the stick in your head is shaking her head and badgering you into believing that you are a bad person. You feel horrible. You want to crawl into a very small space and not have any desires. You might even try that out. It doesn’t help.

What you can do is reach into your paradigm shifting toolkit and apply a thought changing tool. Let’s use a process I like to call inquiry. Inquiry calls into question the validity of a statement. It breaks up the bedrock of certainty on which a belief is built. Once it’s broken down, you have soil where you can plant a new belief.

  • Is being greedy really totally bad?
  • Can I be greedy and free?
  • Can I be good person and be greedy?
  • Are all greedy people bad?
  • Are all bad people greedy?
  • Are all good people generous?
  • Are all generous people good?
  • Is wanting more money really greedy?
  • What if I only want another dollar?
  • What if I want the dollar to give it to charity? Is that different from wanting the dollar to get my nails done? If so, why?
  • Is the charity more important than me? Do they deserve the dollar more?
  • What if I was okay with getting just enough money to feel free?

As you go on, you can feel the guilt begin to lift. For the moment, you have aligned your belief with your desire. When you do that, you are no longer a salmon swimming against your life. You are a human flowing with your life.

Changing your beliefs does not always mean being in your head. What other methods do you use to plant new beliefs?

Nneka, Working Mystic
Nneka serves spiritual seekers who desire to put the Law of Attraction to work to create the life of their dreams.

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